Ketchup and Other Crimes Against Humanity

 Jaime is pretty forgiving of American culture, but like every immigrant, he has his grievances. 

"There's just a lack of an understanding of refinement," he explained as if it were news to me. 

He was talking about our flavor combinations, but he made sure to include plenty of examples outside of the culinary arts. 

I'd just dropped off some gingerbread Trumps at our neighbors', and, like always, I returned with a grocery bag full of food. This bag was heavier than usual because one of their mothers had remembered us and sent some Christmas snacks. 

It was the white chocolate peppermint popcorn that really sent him. 

"Mint's only place is in tea as far as I'm concerned. And chewing gum. Chewing gum is fine, but Americans put it in everything. The only thing that's missing is your precious ketchup!" For the past week, he'd been angrily shaking dark chocolate covered pretzels into a mug of oat milk for his afternoon snack. The bag that came with our latest Imperfect Foods order included little bits of crushed peppermint folded into the chocolate, and he was fucking livid. 

I only recently learned about his aversion to this particular combination after I bought a bag of peppermint bark at Costco. I'd bought them for our mail person, lovingly placed eight pieces in an envelope and clipped it to our box. 

I showed him the bag of the remaining 790 squares and feigned disappointment that we'd have to eat them all. "I'm not eating that. You'll have to do it yourself," was his response, and suddenly, it didn't sound fun anymore. 

Chocolate and peanut butter is another one he can't abide. Really, peanut butter and anything. This isn't unique to him. Even though they have a better name for it, peanut butter (mantequilla de cacahuete) is very hard to find in Spain, and I had to defend peanut butter and jelly to every Spaniard I met. 

It wasn't just that they thought PB&J sounded gross. It sounded so abhorrently sickening to them that they thought we made it up for television shows but didn't actually eat it. 

These and more were brought up during his surprisingly long diatribe, and I think the Colombian Exchange was mentioned at least twice. 

I let him get it out of his system because (1) it was very funny, and (2) a couple hours before, I had to coach him through spitting into a small vial for his Covid test. 

"Tilt your head forward! No, forward not back. Stop blowing bubbles! The bubbles are just air! You're filling the tube with air," are some things I had to say, and you just can't take someone like that seriously no matter how refined his tastes are. 

This is a gingerbread Trump. 

A note from Jaime: His final word on the subject is "snarf". If you don't know what snarf is, it's baked Fritos covered in peanut butter and corn syrup: a Midwestern family's delight and a Valencian's waking nightmare. 

What is Spain? Spain Is Metal.

 Jaime really liked dinner tonight. 

"It reminds me of when we had braised lamb with pepper pellets for school lunch," he said. 

After we figured out he was talking about peppercorns, my mind revisited a topic I think about often: how different our childhoods were. 

"It's not like we got a whole leg or anything. They were fillets, and a lot of kids didn't like it, which was great because they gave their fillets to me." I couldn't remember the other school lunch he loved because other kids hated it and therefore gave him their portions. 

"Fish pudding," he reminded me. 

Ah, yes. Fish pudding. 

I told him that rectangle pizza was pretty popular at my school, and he laughed appropriately. 

Jaime went to an English language school in Spain run by Opus Dei, taught by Filipino teachers and called Edelweiss.  It was his parents' second choice. 

His school day started about the same time as mine, but he wasn't released until almost 6 pm. He'd have dinner with his family at about 9:30 or 10 then go to bed around midnight. Edelweiss was his elementary school. This might sound crazy to those of us who were brought up through socialist American schools, but that schedule is still the norm for kids in Spain today. 

Schoolchildren do have a long break called patio or recreo, which is like recess, during the afternoon siesta time. 

Jaime gets offended when non-Spaniards rib him about siestas. There's almost always an underlying accusation of laziness, so it's understandable he's annoyed. I used to envision the whole country sleeping in their underwear during the hottest part of the day, too, but that was before I saw for myself what really happens during siesta. 

Daily, between 2-4 pm, everyone eats an incredible and reasonably priced lunch and drinks wine or beer before returning to work and doing the bare minimum for the rest of the day until they clock out at 8. Spain is fucking metal, and what makes it metal is that Spaniards work really hard but play harder. 

(Jaime asked me to note his offense taken by the previous paragraph.) 

A couple of weeks ago, Jaime called me into a Zoom meeting he was having with a doctor at KU. Their actual meeting was over, but the man's wife was there because they wanted to tell us about their experience living in Valencia for half a year in the 1980s. 

They had two young children at the time who were attending a Spanish school. 

"I couldn't get over putting them on a bus in the morning and not seeing them again until late in the evening. I spent a lot of time at the grocery store even though the store didn't have the things I wanted." I could imagine her loneliness. Her husband was working, and the kids made friends and picked up the language easily. 

"One day, our son came home with a big bandage on his head. I asked him what happened, and he said another boy had thrown a rock at him. A teacher took him to the hospital where THEY SUTURED HIS HEAD then put him on the bus home." The school hadn't contacted her. 

Jaime and I laughed, but it was clear she was still pretty traumatized by this event. 

"Well, at least it was all free," I said. Spain really is metal. 

We had another Zoom call with our friend Antonio from the Galicia later that day and recounted the story to him. 

"Can you believe that?" we asked. 

"Yeah, I can." He said. It happened to me three times while I was in school. Metal. 

To this day, the best shit I have ever put into my temple.